I don't know how many times I have to hear people tell me to relax for getting upset and/or telling them what I think they're saying is offensive.

When my friend told me about some "faggot" trying to hit on him and I told him how I felt about people using words like that, he told me to chill with the political correctness because we were just having a casual conversation and that I know he doesn't hate gay people so I should have "just let it slide".

And it's just one incident on top of so many others when I hear people saying something with racist/sexist/homophobic undertones that I say something against it and I come out as the one with the problem. I"m either too obsessed with "political correctness", "must be in a foul mood", or am "lacking social skills".

I find it strange/incredibly frustrating that the person who refrains from using such language and feels compelled to help others stop using that language is the one who supposedly needs help socializing. And the fact that he went on a diatribe in defense about how he's been discriminated against as a minority as the reason for why I shouldn't find it offensive, but not as a reason why me might have been wrong in saying it, just makes it even worse.

I find incidents like this one becoming more and more common all the time now. When I was younger I would let things "slide" very often, even if was directed at me specifically, but I refuse to now, even if the comment isn't directed at me and this is the typical response.

But I find myself more aggravated when I hear things from people who I had considered intelligent people with political awareness than I do if I hear it from those I'd expect it from. But the worst part is, I don't think it matters because to them I just come off as being stuck up or something, so I'm the one who's wrong/with the problem and they still see no reason to change their actions/stop using those words. But if I don't say anything at all, then essentially I'm saying that it's fine to speak that way when it's not. So, I feel like it's a no win situation.

Does anyone else find themself in this situation often and if so how do you deal with it?